I really understand the situation. When I was in Canada, I had the exactly same problem with my share mates.
I think Japanese people tend to avoid arguing and telling something directly.
We don’t really say what we think. Just keep it inside.
So in Canada, I just started doing dishes of my share mates without telling them anything, even though I did’nt wanna do it. Because I thought it’s easier and faster than telling them and waiting for their attitudes would be changed. I just couldn’t stand the disgusting dishes.
After a whole, I regreted that I didn’t tell them what I wanted them to do though.
What do you think about my attitude? If you were me, you would do something different?
Please tell me your opinion. Thank you.
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I think it is very interesting that you lived through the situation and you did not say anything. I can not imagine doing everyones dishes all the time. You never got fed up with it?
ReplyDeleteI am actually one of the girls who took part in the skit (the one with the red hair) and this exact situation took place in my apartment the night before we performed the skits in class. For a few weeks, I never said anything to my roomate. But I got really tired of re-doing her dishes. I think the only way to get something solved is to talk about it. The first time we talked about it I said a more general statement. I told all my roomates that we all needed to do the dishes better. This way, no one was pin-pointed or hurt. But when the same roomate continued to not do the dishes correctly, I actually said something to her. She was mad at first, but she knows I still love her. In the end, it was worth it because now we have clean dishes and I'm not doing her dishes.
I can not imagine not saying anything! I got so angry after a month of this siutation, nevermind a year. I can understand why you wouldn't want to say anything, but I still think its worth it to say something. Keeping your feelings inside would get very tiring.
I have been in the same, I was living with a few roommates and they were my best friends and I didn't want to start a conflict so I did their dishes for about a month until finally I snapped and I was like I can't do this anymore. We all sat down and worked it out and they express that they had wished I had said something earlier. I learn through this exprience that sometimes conflict need to occur in order for a change to be made.
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